Although the majority of my posts are about abortion, adoption and infertility, I want this blog to be about the whole person. Because the choices we make in life are often dependent on how we were raised as children, how we see ourselves and how we think society views us, I want to talk to you about strongholds. Mental strongholds are lies and distortions we believe about ourselves, things, opinions, reasoning’s and offenses. So, I’m going to tell you about a lie I believed about myself and how it shaped a huge part of my life.
Infertility mimics a slow agonizing death. The emotional and mentally draining wait each month hoping you’re pregnant usually ends in despair. It can and does, consume all of who you are if you allow it. In my post, Adoption An Answer For The Pain. I share my hopeless feelings about my miscarriages and the way I perceived myself because of the infertility.
At the time, I didn’t realize my response to my inability to have a child was related to issues I’d had most of my life. Poor self-esteem from being the “fat child in class”, and a teacher who in front of my entire 5th grade elementary class, continually, openly criticized me for having a weight problem. I never told my parents what was going on. I was too ashamed. When you’re in 5th grade, you think teachers are always right, and this was proof that I was not “good enough, not worthy”. That year created a major emotional scar and a lie I believed about myself took root in my mind.
This was 1965. Eventually, my mother found out, and God bless her, did everything she could to have the teacher removed from the classroom. During the process we found out the woman had been moved around from school to school with similar problems of verbally attacking certain students she particularly didn’t like for various reasons. (not just weight)
When people met me, usually I was told something like this, “You’re so pretty, what a lovely smile, your blonde hair is beautiful.” But then they glanced down, below my face to the rest of me and the look on their face said it all. “If you’d just lose a few pounds, you’d be acceptable.” What I saw in their eyes was, “You’re not good enough”. The teacher’s critical attitude securely reinforced this same belief.
I made friends when I could shove the lie down deep enough, but the pain always lurked just beneath the surface, threatening to jump out and tell everyone how unacceptable I believed myself to be. I share this with you because what we believe about ourselves and our circumstances has a major bearing on the choices we make in life.
When I speak to you about abortion, I stress how much God loves us. How He made each of us unique, with special gifts and talents to expand His kingdom of light on this earth, and be a service to others. Strongholds keep God’s light from coming through us. The lies we believe distort how we see things and judge our circumstances. They argue against who God says we are, His creation, formed in His goodness and glory and how very much we are loved and valued by Him.
Strongholds are open doors, opinions satan can use in our lives. We need to close these doors, slam them shut, lock them up and throw away the keys. The lies cloud our perception about what God is doing and thinking about us and others. When you don’t agree with God, you empower satan. Lies form attitudes in our life and keep us from seeing our responsibility in situations. The spiritual side of ourselves becomes clouded, and we justify the sin in our lives and the choices we make from that belief as if they are “OK”. The lie that abortion is legal, therefore it’s not murder and acceptable to do is a stronghold in our thinking about the value of life. Satan uses this untruth promoted by our law and society to destroy life before the baby has a chance to be born and become a part of God’s family on earth. When you want to not be pregnant, it becomes a lie you can embrace to justify changing your perceived dreaded situation. Strongholds take your mind to a place of negativity and hopelessness.
God says we are His precious creation, His children. Believing abortion is acceptable keeps us from embracing God’s truth, and instead we believe our actions are justified. Strongholds are the exact opposite of what God wants to happen, His knowledge about you and your child’s destinies and purpose. Acts 17:26 (NIV) 26 From one man he made all the nations, that they should inhabit the whole earth; and he marked out their appointed times in history and the boundaries of their lands.
Strongholds are not demons. You don’t cast them out. You pull them down and out of your mind using God’s word. 2 Corinthians 10:3-5 New Living Translation (NLT) 3 We are human, but we don’t wage war as humans do. 4 [a]We use God’s mighty weapons, not worldly weapons, to pull down the strongholds of human reasoning and to destroy false arguments. 5 We destroy every proud obstacle that keeps people from knowing God. We capture their rebellious thoughts and teach them to obey Christ.
Ask for God’s help. Use His word to take your thoughts captive to who Christ says you are. Pull down the lies you believe. Ask Him to speak His truth to your mind. Repent for the falsehoods you’ve thought were true about yourself and your life. Ask God to show you how He sees you and your child.