Tears Soften Your Heart

The hectic lifestyles we lead make it difficult to support healthy relationships.  Often, we give everything to our jobs, meetings, churches, volunteering, hobbies, our children’s activities.  Being everything to everyone.  We arrive home exhausted, just wanting some space and down time, and we’ll do almost anything, to, just for a moment, disconnect.  We head for the television, computer, music, exercise, food, alcohol or whatever we use to comfort ourselves.

Doing, becomes a way of life and taking time to sit alone in the quiet with our thoughts, hopes, dreams and fears can be a frightening destination.  So, most of us file away the idea of stillness for another day, and go on with life as usual.

Unfortunately, we cheat ourselves from experiencing a wonderful part of our life, and from developing and nourishing the most important relationship of our existence.  Knowing God and His heart for us.

God created us to have an intimate relationship with Him.  How do you create intimacy with your spouse?  By spending time alone together talking, asking questions, learning about what each of you want in life, sharing your hopes, dreams, your dark moments and seeing how that person responds towards you about them.  Sometimes you simply sit in the silence, drawing strength from just being together and the love you have for each other.  You can’t wait to be together, and making the other person happy is most important.

That’s the same relationship God wants to have with you, and it can only happen by spending time alone with Him in the quiet.

With God, the difference is, He already knows everything about us, and that fact alone can keep us from seeking Him out.  His great love for us woos and calls us to His side where He longs to show and tell you what He knows about you, loving us enough to forgive the bad when we ask Him, and share with you how He sees us through Christ Jesus.  We are His marvelous creation, each  unique and made for a destiny all our own.  God wants us to return His love, freely given, freely expressed.  He wants us to ask about His heart.  What does He want from us, what will He share about Himself with us.  It’s a relationship that takes our time and effort because it’s so worth having.

He promises to never leave or forsake us.  He waits patiently for us to talk to Him, to share our hearts and shed our tears, tears of joy, tears of pain.  Tears He gave us to keep our hearts soft and pliable.  When your heart is hard towards a person, there is no intimate relationship.  Take time for the quiet everyday. Give God a part of the day we give so much of to others.

Matthew 7:7 tells us if we seek Him we will find Him.  Even our seeking is His idea; that’s how much He loves us.

Donna

 

 

All-Sufficient God

The memories of this past holiday season are sealed in my heart.  I was blessed to have my son’s and daughter’s families at home for Thanksgiving and Christmas this year which of course included both my grandsons!  My children are not often home at the same time, and I cherished the special days together.

Grandsons . . . I have two, and if it’s God’s plan, they’ll be more grandchildren.  God’s intentions for us are always good.  I remind myself of this when I can, because I remember a time I was certain I’d never be a mother, let alone a grandmother.

Everyday God’s goodness amazes me. Jeremiah 29:11 tells us God has good plans for us, plans to give us hope and a future, and even though these words were spoken by God in the old testament to the children of Israel, when you become a christian, you become heirs to God’s promises to Abraham as well.  God has good intentions for all our lives, but He has requirements as well.

Jeremiah also tells us God wants to prosper us.  Prosperity in the scriptures means sufficiency in all things, God’s grace abounding toward us.  In order for us to receive His bounty in every area of our lives, He wants us to first seek Him and His kingdom, and when we do, He promises to care and provide for us.

In my post, Adoption An Answer For The Pain, I shared my heart with you about my infertility, miscarriages and eventual adoptions.  After ten years of infertility and my first miscarriage, I gave up on everything, including God.  My pain swallowed me; and I was sick to death of listening to women complain about their kids and motherhood, or not wanting to be pregnant at all.  God, in His loving mercy allowed me to grieve and heal, and eventually I returned to His arms of forgiveness and hope, even though He’d never let me go to start with.

God had blessings planned for me.  His path was different than I’d thought of for my life, but oh, how good His ideas were for me.

If you still wait for a child, or you’re pregnant and don’t want to be, don’t give up on God. He’s not given up on you.  He wants you to have a child; perhaps through natural birth or adoption, or maybe foster care.  He is the God of life.  If you’re considering abortion, wait and seek Him first.  Allow God’s Holy Spirit to speak to you and share His good intentions for both you and your baby.

He is the “all-sufficient one” who never slumbers or sleeps.  God cares about every detail of your life and He will sustain you.

Over time, I healed  after my miscarriage.  I prayed.  I cried out to God.  I wanted peace.  I wanted what He wanted for me because I’d come to the realization He wanted only good for me.  I stepped back and let go of my baby quest, and in His great compassion, love and timing, God brought my baby daughter into my life.  He’d wanted this for me all along.  God never let go of me and He used one woman’s choice for life to be the answer to my prayers.

He’ll do the same for you, no matter what side of the motherhood equation you’re on.

Seek Him first.  You and your child will never regret it.

Donna