Strongholds-Lies We Believe

Although the majority of my posts are about abortion, adoption and infertility, I want this blog to be about the whole person.  Because the choices we make in life are often dependent on how we were raised as children, how we see ourselves and how we think society views us, I want to talk to you about strongholds.  Mental strongholds are lies and distortions we believe about ourselves, things, opinions, reasoning’s and offenses. So, I’m going to tell you about a lie I believed about myself and how it shaped a huge part of my life.

Infertility mimics a slow agonizing death.  The emotional and mentally draining wait each month hoping you’re pregnant usually ends in despair.  It can and does, consume all of who you are if you allow it.  In my post, Adoption An Answer For The Pain.  I share my hopeless feelings about my miscarriages and the way I perceived myself because of the infertility.

At the time, I didn’t realize my response to my inability to have a child was related to issues I’d had most of my life.  Poor self-esteem from being the “fat child in class”, and a teacher who in front of my entire 5th grade elementary class, continually, openly criticized me for having a weight problem.  I never told my parents what was going on.  I was too ashamed.  When you’re in 5th grade, you think teachers are always right, and this was proof that I was not “good enough, not worthy”. That year created a major emotional scar and a lie I believed about myself took root in my mind.

This was 1965.  Eventually, my mother found out, and God bless her, did everything she could to have the teacher removed from the classroom. During the process we found out the woman had been moved around from school to school with similar problems of verbally attacking certain students she particularly didn’t like for various reasons. (not just weight)

When people met me, usually I was told something like this, “You’re so pretty, what a lovely smile, your blonde hair is beautiful.”  But then they glanced down, below my face to the rest of me and the look on their face said it all.  “If you’d just lose a few pounds, you’d be acceptable.”  What I saw in their eyes was, “You’re not good enough”.  The teacher’s critical attitude securely reinforced this same belief.

I made friends when I could shove the lie down deep enough, but the pain always lurked just beneath the surface, threatening to jump out and tell everyone how unacceptable I believed myself to be. I share this with you because what we believe about ourselves and our circumstances has a major bearing on the choices we make in life.

When I speak to you about abortion, I stress how much God loves us.  How He made each of us unique, with special gifts and talents to expand His kingdom of light on this earth, and be a service to others.  Strongholds keep God’s light from coming through us. The lies we believe distort how we see things and judge our circumstances. They argue against who God says we are, His creation, formed in His goodness and glory and how very much we are loved and valued by Him.

Strongholds are open doors, opinions satan can use in our lives. We need to close these doors, slam them shut, lock them up and throw away the keys.  The lies cloud our perception about what God is doing and thinking about us and others.  When you don’t agree with God, you empower satan.  Lies form attitudes in our life and keep us from seeing our responsibility in situations. The spiritual side of ourselves becomes clouded, and we justify the sin in our lives and the choices we make from that belief as if they are “OK”.  The lie that abortion is legal, therefore it’s not murder and acceptable to do is a stronghold in our thinking about the value of life.  Satan uses this untruth promoted by our law and society to destroy life before the baby has a chance to be born and become a part of God’s family on earth. When you want to not be pregnant, it becomes a lie you can embrace to justify changing your perceived dreaded situation.  Strongholds take your mind to a place of negativity and hopelessness.

God says we are His precious creation, His children.  Believing abortion is acceptable keeps us from embracing God’s truth, and instead we believe our actions are justified.  Strongholds are the exact opposite of what God wants to happen, His knowledge about you and your child’s destinies and purpose.  Acts 17:26 (NIV)  26 From one man he made all the nations, that they should inhabit the whole earth; and he marked out their appointed times in history and the boundaries of their lands.

Strongholds are not demons.  You don’t cast them out.  You pull them down and out of your mind using God’s word.  2 Corinthians 10:3-5  New Living Translation (NLT)  We are human, but we don’t wage war as humans do. [a]We use God’s mighty weapons, not worldly weapons, to pull down the strongholds of human reasoning and to destroy false arguments. We destroy every proud obstacle that keeps people from knowing God. We capture their rebellious thoughts and teach them to obey Christ.

Ask for God’s help.  Use His word to take your thoughts captive to who Christ says you are. Pull down the lies you believe. Ask Him to speak His truth to your mind.  Repent for the falsehoods you’ve thought were true about yourself and your life.  Ask God to show you how He sees you and your child.

Donna

All God’s Creation Is Good

Last weekend my husband and I spent three days in Colorado driving the highways and mountain passes bathed in aspen gold and orange.  Each bend in the narrow roads lured us on with the promise of the next stunning vista ahead, and we were not disappointed.

Some of the local residents told us the views were the best they’d seen in thirty years.  We stopped at any pull-off area we could to take photos.  My husband is quite artistic and has a good eye for setting up the frame to capture the best picture.  We have numerous examples of his talent to remind us of this, and past trips.

I share this with you because, at many of these photo-taking stops, I stood beside the car or walked to the road’s edge and found myself telling God how awesome His creation is.  Praise erupted from my heart and tumbled out my mouth in gratitude for the beauty and for opportunity He gave us to view it.  I had some pain issues during the trip and was not physically doing the best, but even that could not restrain my enthusiasm or love of the magnificent scenery.

 Genesis 1:31 Amplified Bible (AMP)    And God saw everything that He had made, and behold, it was very good (suitable, pleasant) and He approved it completely.

God made us.  His creation is good, very good and when we live in right relationship with Him, we accomplish what He created us for in every area of our lives.  That however, is the key.  Living in right relationship with God.  Which means we have to get to know Him as a friend and a father.  You can only do that by spending time with Him in prayer, praising, asking questions, being still, listening to His heart and then, going about your life based on the things you learned from sitting at His feet.

I get myself in trouble every time I neglect this most important area of my life.

In my post, Adoption-An Answer for the Pain, I shared with you the devastating loss of my first child through miscarriage after eight endless years of infertility.  I suffered a miscarriage again, later in my life. During each of these life crises, I tore myself apart by believing lies I told myself, that I was useless, and a failure as a woman.  While battling the infertility and dealing with the first miscarriage, I negatively questioned, begged and finally railed against God for His seeming non-caring of my life issues.  In reality, nothing was further from the truth, and after some healing time had passed; He opened the door to adoption and now I have two children and two grandchildren!

I got my self into this self-pity arena by not spending time with God as His child and my Father.  Sharing intimacy with someone is not time filled with blaming and anger. God patiently waited for me to heal, all the time aiding my recovery by the power of the Holy Spirit, and I did’nt even know it was happening. He loved me then, and He loves me now.  Just like He loves you.  We are His creation, His children, and He loves us with a good Father’s heart.

If you’re telling yourself you’re worthless, useless, a failure, or that God has abandoned you, those are lies from the enemy, (satan).  Recognize them as lies and do not receive those falsehoods into your spirit.  When you spend large amounts of time with someone, you pick up their traits and mannerisms and incorporate them into your own life.  I want that from God.  Not only for Him to abide in me, but for me to live in Him, become like Him.  So, when you hear those lies in your head.  Rise up!  Say NO! Your are God’s creation, His child and He loves you.

It’s a journey.  A path we’ll travel our whole lives.  Sometimes, we’ll step off the path, get back on, make some wrong turns and perhaps, even turn around and walk back before we right ourselves again.

Donna

John 3:16

New International Reader’s Version (NIRV)  “God loved the world so much that he gave his one and only Son. Anyone who believes in him will not die but will have eternal life.

 

When God Says-“Don’t Do That!”-It’s Because He Loves Us

When parents say no, or don’t do that, the majority of times it’s to protect our children.  We’re older, we’ve experienced life, we know the dangers and possible repercussions our choices bring.  Children, however, have an innate ability to give you the look that lets you know you couldn’t possibly understand how they feel and they’re just as certain, your main goal in life is to keep them from enjoying their lives to fullest.  When in fact, the opposite is true.

We love our children, and because of that love, we have an instinctual urge to protect them.

God is not only our creator, if that wasn’t enough, but our Father.  He loved us long before our earthly parents were aware of our existence.  He’s not the big meanie in the sky who sets out each day to keep us from having fun and enjoying life.  In the old testament He issued sanitary laws for the children of Israel to protect them from sickness and disease.  Guidelines that are still in use today because they work.  He speaks against adultery and sex outside of marriage because of the spiritual, emotional and physical illnesses we can bring upon ourselves and our spouses.  How many men and women have inherited a physical disease because of an unfaithful spouse?  And, we’re not even discussing the sexual lives of the unmarried in todays culture.

I say this because I’d like to direct you to an article published on www.charismanews.com.  This article stated last week in the British Journal of Psychiatry, that a meta-analysis of 22 studies including 877,000 participants over a 14 year period found that 81 percent of women who had an abortion faced serious mental health risks. Here is a direct link: http://charismanews.com/culture/31899-study-abortion-leads-to-suicidal-behaviors

Many times science and medicine back up God’s truths, and when I can, I will share their findings with you.  Abortion brings destruction not only to the child but to the mother.  I’d like to pray with you.

Father God, thank you for loving us more than we love ourselves.  Help us to hear what You are saying to us and help us to understand You want only good for us.  Forgive us for doubting that, forgive us for not heeding your guidance.  Forgive us.

Donna

Hope-God Revealing His Heart To Us

If you read my post, Adoption-An Answer for the Pain, I wrote about my feelings of failure.  Failure as a woman, failure as a wife, failure as a christian because of questioning and blaming God for my inability to conceive or carry a child to term.  By the time I miscarried my first child, I’d completely given up on myself and God.

Mercifully, He didn’t give up on me.  Through His son, Jesus Christ, He continued to love me, to protect my heart and to forgive me. Hebrews 13:5 says, “I will never leave you or forsake you.” That’s God’s promise to us.  He was still there, all the time, loving me in spite of my feelings about Him, my circumstances or myself.

Pain, mental or physical, shuts you down and gives you tunnel vision.  All your focus is on the pain and the reasons for it.  You ache for relief, and after a while, you’ll do anything to stop it.  When I became a christian, I asked Jesus to forgive me and be my Lord and Savior.  He did, and the Holy Spirit came to live inside me.  There aren’t enough words to express how grateful I am for that.  The Holy Spirit is our comforter, our teacher, our encourager, and so much more. It’s the Holy Spirit who accomplishes God’s purpose in our lives.

When you hear someone who has a true relationship with Jesus say,” God told me,” what they mean in almost all cases is they heard the Holy Spirit inside their spirit speak to them.  I know, He speaks to me and I speak to Him.

I was a christian. . . an immature one, when I lost my first child after so many years of trying to conceive.  But, after some time passed and I’d had a chance to grieve, the Holy Spirit applied His healing oil to my broken heart.  At first, the unbearable weight of loss lifted enough for me to realize I would live through this and that realization freed my paralyzed spirit.  Eventually, numbness dissolved, and feelings of abandonment by God disappeared.  I’d wake in the night thinking about God and His love for me, and with that, hope, which I’d been certain had vanished from the earth, raised its beautiful face.  I asked God for forgiveness, which He gave, but like the good Father that He is, He gave me so much more.  He infused my heart with His love.  Hope and faith in that love allowed me to rest, to finally let go and trust His good intentions towards me.  With complete certainty, I knew God loved me and that He’d placed the desire in my heart to become a mother.  He’d planned my life before He created me, just like He did for you.

I share this to tell you, God created you to have a  personal relationship with Him.  He will not stop pursuing you.  He wants you to cry out to Him for help and hope.  That is a prayer I guarantee He will answer.  I will pray for you.  See my contact page for info.

His love for us has no measure.

Proverbs 13:12 says, “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.”

Donna