Our Growing Inhumanity and Callousness

I never cease to be amazed at how far society has fallen in their acceptance of what is morally wrong, or in my opinion, better stated as evil. This post contains some links to good examples of my thoughts contained here.  I hope you read them.

I follow a few pro-life websites, and there are times I’m barely able to finish their articles about abortion before I begin to weep and the need to pray completely overwhelms me. The Holy Spirit speaks to my spirit, and I start interceding in prayer for our country and other countries who sanction, or even order the killing of unborn babies by abortion. In some cases, infants born alive during abortion procedures are murdered by the doctor, or, medical care is withheld from these children until they die.  These babies are unceremoniously placed out of sight, left to die alone, without care or thought because they were supposed to succumb to the abortion procedure.

I do want to say, in some United States hospitals and also, in some abortion clinics, there are medical staff who struggle with the horrific practices I spoke of in the preceding paragraph. I’ve read more than a few articles about nurses whose hearts break because of abortion practices, yet they must follow their employer’s requirement which is to obey the law of our country that states a woman has a “right” to take the life of her unborn child. See this link: http://www.lifesitenews.com/news/this-is-so-hard.-oh-god-its-so-hard-nurses-tell-of-aborted-babies-born-aliv

More late-term abortions are taking place. These procedures need a woman to give birth. The result is, many more babies do not die from the lethal injections or chemical solutions meant to kill them.  According to the Journal of Medical Ethics, debates are now taking place about killing newborns if the woman chooses because the child would be a financial, physical or emotional burden to the mother OR the family. See the following link:http://jme.bmj.com/content/early/2012/03/01/medethics-2011-100411.full

In my past post entitled: When God Says-”Don’t Do That!”-It’s Because He Loves Us I talk about God in His wisdom knowing if He gives the human race an inch, we take ten miles, so to speak, and end up destroying ourselves and others. Yet, He gives us a chance to honor Him by making good, moral, loving choices like He desires for us.

I cannot fathom the reasoning of women who would actually give birth to an unwanted child and will NOT place it for adoption in a loving home, yet they follow through with abortion.  There is no excuse for this tragedy when so many women today are unable to have biological children.  Our culture has senselessly bought into the lie of satan that what we think is best for ourselves, far outweighs the lives of our own children.

Please, please give adoption serious consideration if you are pregnant and can’t keep your child.  Give life and love to your little one by allowing your baby to fulfill its God-given purpose for his or her life.  God will see your heart and take care of you, your child and the family who will love your baby as their own.  I know this for a fact.  I have two adopted children who are now grown with beautiful families of their own.. Don’t listen to the lies of our culture that increasingly speak in favor of death and destruction.

Remember this; when you abort your child, you take the lives of generations of people.

I will pray for you.  Feel free to contact me.  I love the two women who gave life to my children.  I will forever be thankful and grateful to God for their choice of life.

Donna

 

 

 

 

 

Strongholds-Lies We Believe

Although the majority of my posts are about abortion, adoption and infertility, I want this blog to be about the whole person.  Because the choices we make in life are often dependent on how we were raised as children, how we see ourselves and how we think society views us, I want to talk to you about strongholds.  Mental strongholds are lies and distortions we believe about ourselves, things, opinions, reasoning’s and offenses. So, I’m going to tell you about a lie I believed about myself and how it shaped a huge part of my life.

Infertility mimics a slow agonizing death.  The emotional and mentally draining wait each month hoping you’re pregnant usually ends in despair.  It can and does, consume all of who you are if you allow it.  In my post, Adoption An Answer For The Pain.  I share my hopeless feelings about my miscarriages and the way I perceived myself because of the infertility.

At the time, I didn’t realize my response to my inability to have a child was related to issues I’d had most of my life.  Poor self-esteem from being the “fat child in class”, and a teacher who in front of my entire 5th grade elementary class, continually, openly criticized me for having a weight problem.  I never told my parents what was going on.  I was too ashamed.  When you’re in 5th grade, you think teachers are always right, and this was proof that I was not “good enough, not worthy”. That year created a major emotional scar and a lie I believed about myself took root in my mind.

This was 1965.  Eventually, my mother found out, and God bless her, did everything she could to have the teacher removed from the classroom. During the process we found out the woman had been moved around from school to school with similar problems of verbally attacking certain students she particularly didn’t like for various reasons. (not just weight)

When people met me, usually I was told something like this, “You’re so pretty, what a lovely smile, your blonde hair is beautiful.”  But then they glanced down, below my face to the rest of me and the look on their face said it all.  “If you’d just lose a few pounds, you’d be acceptable.”  What I saw in their eyes was, “You’re not good enough”.  The teacher’s critical attitude securely reinforced this same belief.

I made friends when I could shove the lie down deep enough, but the pain always lurked just beneath the surface, threatening to jump out and tell everyone how unacceptable I believed myself to be. I share this with you because what we believe about ourselves and our circumstances has a major bearing on the choices we make in life.

When I speak to you about abortion, I stress how much God loves us.  How He made each of us unique, with special gifts and talents to expand His kingdom of light on this earth, and be a service to others.  Strongholds keep God’s light from coming through us. The lies we believe distort how we see things and judge our circumstances. They argue against who God says we are, His creation, formed in His goodness and glory and how very much we are loved and valued by Him.

Strongholds are open doors, opinions satan can use in our lives. We need to close these doors, slam them shut, lock them up and throw away the keys.  The lies cloud our perception about what God is doing and thinking about us and others.  When you don’t agree with God, you empower satan.  Lies form attitudes in our life and keep us from seeing our responsibility in situations. The spiritual side of ourselves becomes clouded, and we justify the sin in our lives and the choices we make from that belief as if they are “OK”.  The lie that abortion is legal, therefore it’s not murder and acceptable to do is a stronghold in our thinking about the value of life.  Satan uses this untruth promoted by our law and society to destroy life before the baby has a chance to be born and become a part of God’s family on earth. When you want to not be pregnant, it becomes a lie you can embrace to justify changing your perceived dreaded situation.  Strongholds take your mind to a place of negativity and hopelessness.

God says we are His precious creation, His children.  Believing abortion is acceptable keeps us from embracing God’s truth, and instead we believe our actions are justified.  Strongholds are the exact opposite of what God wants to happen, His knowledge about you and your child’s destinies and purpose.  Acts 17:26 (NIV)  26 From one man he made all the nations, that they should inhabit the whole earth; and he marked out their appointed times in history and the boundaries of their lands.

Strongholds are not demons.  You don’t cast them out.  You pull them down and out of your mind using God’s word.  2 Corinthians 10:3-5  New Living Translation (NLT)  We are human, but we don’t wage war as humans do. [a]We use God’s mighty weapons, not worldly weapons, to pull down the strongholds of human reasoning and to destroy false arguments. We destroy every proud obstacle that keeps people from knowing God. We capture their rebellious thoughts and teach them to obey Christ.

Ask for God’s help.  Use His word to take your thoughts captive to who Christ says you are. Pull down the lies you believe. Ask Him to speak His truth to your mind.  Repent for the falsehoods you’ve thought were true about yourself and your life.  Ask God to show you how He sees you and your child.

Donna

Baby Boxes Save Lives And Bring Hope

 Today our extended family celebrated the birth of a new baby!  We anxiously awaited her birth, and welcomed her into our lives.  At the same time, I await the arrival of my third grandchild and first granddaughter!  I can hardly believe it’s true.  So many years ago the thought of being a grandmother seemed like an impossible dream due to my infertility issues and miscarriages.  I wanted desperately to become a mother, and because two women gave life to their children and the gift of adoption, I have a daughter and a son and three grandkids.  I’m so blessed, but many mothers face insurmountable choices and often the consequences to the newborns are devastating.

I’ve been aware of different forms of “baby boxes, or hatches” for a long time, but today, I read an article about the resurgence of these boxes in numerous countries around the world.  The use of baby boxes are being implemented in European and Asian countries in an effort to save the lives of children from infanticide or abandonment and subsequent death. When an unwanted child is born and the mother is unable for cultural, religious, or emotional reasons to care for the child, and the babies birth would be a stigma placed on the woman for the remainder of her life, this safe form of anonymous abandonment is one way to save the child’s life who is then placed with an adoptive family.

Typically the boxes are at hospitals, and are an incubator with an outside door for the mother to place the baby inside, shut the door, which then signals the medical staff that a baby is inside and in need of attention.  The baby’s life is saved and protected.

The United Nations is promoting a ban on these boxes and wants the use of them stopped, stating they “violate the rights of the child”.

Infanticide is on the rise around the world.  Where are the rights of the child in that situation?  Any idea that saves the lives of children is a good idea.  Yes there are social, poverty and educational  issues to be addressed, and countries need to do this, but while waiting for these answers which will only be a small percentage of the problem solving, children are being abandoned and murdered.  These boxes are one way to encourage adoption and life for the children.

Adoption gives life and creates new families. Adoption gives hope for the future to desperate people waiting for a child to love and raise as their own.  Adoption is one way God answers these prayers for the birth mother, the baby and the adoptive family.

I know.  My children are adopted, and now our family is completing the circle with grandchildren.

God is so good.  Prayerfully consider adoption, or support people who are trying to save the lives of babies through pregnancy homes for mothers, or communities sponsoring baby boxes, and orphan care homes.  Save lives.  Love a child!

Here is a link to the article I read.  http://news.yahoo.com/europe-mulls-banning-boxes-abandoned-babies-075454911.html 

Donna

Giving Up Fear

Republican Paul Ryan, the United States Congressman from the first congressional District of Wisconsin, told a reporter during an interview that he gave up fear for Lent.  This was during a time his highly debated budget proposal plan was being presented to the House of Representatives, and due to it’s tough proposals on reducing government entitlement spending and downsizing the country’s deficit, the Congressman knew he would be politically and personally attacked by Democrats and Republicans, and that the news media would attempt their own textual and verbal assassinations.

The reporter asked him if the was serious, and was he doing it? The Congressman answered, “I’m working on it.”

Although the reporter appeared both amused and puzzled at his answer, the practice of taking hold of, or releasing thoughts and our response to them is not a new premise.

The bible states in 2nd Corinthians 10:5  KJV “Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalted itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ.”   God’s word, the bible, says without faith it is impossible to please Him, and that He has not given us the spirit of fear, but of power and a sound mind, Romans 8:15, Hebrew 11:6.

Thoughts and imaginations originate in our mind, the same place fear attacks us.  Fear is the opposite of faith.  Therefore, it’s not from God.  Father God is not double-minded.  He cannot and would not give us something He has already said does not please Him and that He told us is NOT from Him.   If it’s not from God, it’s from satan. Don’t take that fearful thought or temptation.  When it comes, recognize it for what it is.  Say, “NO!  I’m not going to receive this. Go from my mind, now!”  That’s one way to cast it down and get your mind back into captive obedience to God, who only wants good for you.  Then, ask God through the Holy Spirit to give you His peace, and thank Him for loving and caring for you in every area of your life.  You need to do both, tell the thought to go and ask God for His help.  Throw it out and replace it.  The more you practice, the easier it becomes and the less satan will bombard you in that area of fear or temptation. 

Because of our human nature and the world’s culture around us, our minds will always be assaulted with ideas that are not in line with God’s good plan for our lives.  He created each of us to live in this time and place, giving us talents, personalities, strength, compassion, abilities and determination to carry out His destiny and unique purpose that only we can bring to the earth and others around us.

Fear cripples, destroys and kills that destiny if we allow it to take up residence in our heart and mind.  God gave us a way out through His son, Jesus Christ.  Everything we need to live a victorious life is found in Him and His magnificent love for us. Give up fear by kicking it out!

I can’t end this post without encouraging women who are afraid the baby they long for will never be, or, by reaching out to women in a different position, who think if they don’t abort the child they carry, their own life will be destroyed.  Who’s telling you that? 

Not God . . .

God gave you the desire to have a child, don’t give up on the dream that came from Him. Tell the fear to go and start rejoicing and praising Him for whatever way He’s going to bring that child into your life! 

Abortion is not Gods plan. He gave the child life, so He wouldn’t tell you abortion is the answer.  It’s part of your destiny to give birth to the baby you carry.  He may choose another home for the child and a different path for you to walk, or He may show you He wants you to raise the child and for the two of your lives to be entwined as family.

Email me, or write.  I will answer, help and pray for you.  God is good.  He’s hope and mercy and loving kindness.

Donna

All-Sufficient God

The memories of this past holiday season are sealed in my heart.  I was blessed to have my son’s and daughter’s families at home for Thanksgiving and Christmas this year which of course included both my grandsons!  My children are not often home at the same time, and I cherished the special days together.

Grandsons . . . I have two, and if it’s God’s plan, they’ll be more grandchildren.  God’s intentions for us are always good.  I remind myself of this when I can, because I remember a time I was certain I’d never be a mother, let alone a grandmother.

Everyday God’s goodness amazes me. Jeremiah 29:11 tells us God has good plans for us, plans to give us hope and a future, and even though these words were spoken by God in the old testament to the children of Israel, when you become a christian, you become heirs to God’s promises to Abraham as well.  God has good intentions for all our lives, but He has requirements as well.

Jeremiah also tells us God wants to prosper us.  Prosperity in the scriptures means sufficiency in all things, God’s grace abounding toward us.  In order for us to receive His bounty in every area of our lives, He wants us to first seek Him and His kingdom, and when we do, He promises to care and provide for us.

In my post, Adoption An Answer For The Pain, I shared my heart with you about my infertility, miscarriages and eventual adoptions.  After ten years of infertility and my first miscarriage, I gave up on everything, including God.  My pain swallowed me; and I was sick to death of listening to women complain about their kids and motherhood, or not wanting to be pregnant at all.  God, in His loving mercy allowed me to grieve and heal, and eventually I returned to His arms of forgiveness and hope, even though He’d never let me go to start with.

God had blessings planned for me.  His path was different than I’d thought of for my life, but oh, how good His ideas were for me.

If you still wait for a child, or you’re pregnant and don’t want to be, don’t give up on God. He’s not given up on you.  He wants you to have a child; perhaps through natural birth or adoption, or maybe foster care.  He is the God of life.  If you’re considering abortion, wait and seek Him first.  Allow God’s Holy Spirit to speak to you and share His good intentions for both you and your baby.

He is the “all-sufficient one” who never slumbers or sleeps.  God cares about every detail of your life and He will sustain you.

Over time, I healed  after my miscarriage.  I prayed.  I cried out to God.  I wanted peace.  I wanted what He wanted for me because I’d come to the realization He wanted only good for me.  I stepped back and let go of my baby quest, and in His great compassion, love and timing, God brought my baby daughter into my life.  He’d wanted this for me all along.  God never let go of me and He used one woman’s choice for life to be the answer to my prayers.

He’ll do the same for you, no matter what side of the motherhood equation you’re on.

Seek Him first.  You and your child will never regret it.

Donna

 

Holidays Heartaches Healing and Children

When we look past the commercialism, crazy schedules and overspending we impose on ourselves, the majority of us look forward to the Christmas season and have fond memories of family, friends and special moments.  But for many people, the holidays represent sadness, depression, family disputes and heartache, and for women longing for a child, the story of the birth of Christ is a reminder of what is missing in their lives. A baby.

During my years of infertility, walking through the stores at Christmas and seeing the toys and children’s clothing so prominently displayed only intensified my pain.  I longed to buy the little red dresses and shiny patent shoes, the footballs, the train sets, all the things parents walking beside me were piling into their carts, while sometimes complaining about it, then checking off their lists.  There were no items on my list for a child and another hole opened in my heart for what was not to be.  After a few years, I protected myself and avoided the children’s departments.  I headed straight for the sections that had gifts for the adults in my family and planned trips to stores that sold only groceries for the holiday celebration.

When I thought it couldn’t get worse, my sisters-in-law who were both younger than myself and married after me, had babies.  Now, I had to listen to my parents and my in-laws extol the sweetness and beauty of the two granddaughters who graced their lives.  The babies were both very precious, and I loved them, but neither was mine, and now, I couldn’t escape the children’s sections any longer.

Children and Christmas are made for each other.  After all, the story of Christmas is about the birth of Jesus, the son of God, His miraculous entry into the earth, His plan for the salvation of mankind.  He was and is the perfect gift.

I share this with you because it’s easy to get caught up in your pain and forget the purpose of Christ’s birth which is salvation.  The highly important gift of forgiveness is not the only thing available in the word save, as used in Luke 9:56. “For the Son of  Man did not come to destroy men’s lives, but to save them” In the original Greek the word save, is sozo, which means complete salvation.  It has everything we need, forgiveness of sin, healing of disease and deliverance from torment.  Jesus came to save our whole body, mind and spirit.  Jesus does every thing well.  He loves every part of us and wants us to live victoriously now, here on earth.  Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done, on earth, as it is in heaven.  There is no sickness, disease, torment or lack in heaven.

Children are a blessing from God.  He wants to give you a child.  He wants to heal your body; He wants deliver your mind and spirit from torment and release them to His salvation.  You can ask Him for that.  You can ask Him to forgive you if you’ve had an abortion and He will.  He loves each of us and to prove it, He sent Jesus, His only son, for the purpose of dying and becoming our sin, our disease and our torment. In my post, Baby Showers, I prayed a prayer for conceiving a child and for forgiveness.  Read the prayer, pray it and believe in Jesus who came to give us the gift of Himself and all the goodness attached to Him.

May the blessing of God and His full intentions for you come to pass in your lifetime through God’s strength and power of the Holy Spirit.

Donna

God Wants To Bless You

I sat in church today amidst sunshine spilling through stained glass windows and Christmas carols floating above the organ’s soothing tones. I’m certain the scene and sounds mirrored many such services taking place across America today during this Advent season.  The pastor spoke of the infilling of the Holy Spirit in our lives and how God gives us the Spirit to bring about the work of His Kingdom on the earth now.

I knew this from scripture and God has dealt with my walk in His kingdom on earth as it is in heaven for a while.  This blog is a part of His work in my life to help other women become more aware of how very much God loves them and their children.  His kingdom on earth. . .

The pastor spoke of blessing and being a blessing to others.  It’s one of God’s good principles of doing unto others.  In blessing others, we are blessed.  God healed me, gave me a family of my own and now I seek to be a blessing to those of you who want children and a family.  I want to help the women who are making hard choices about children, abortion, adoption and life.  I want to bless you.

The ushers passed out the communion elements, the bread and juice representing Jesus’ body and blood given as a gift to us for salvation, healing and blessing.  Everytime I partake of communion I receive the blessing of Christ into my body, my mind and my spirit.

I sat in the peace of the moment asking God to bless the elements, for the simple bread and juice received in faith to become inside me what He intended it’s purpose to be. I looked out across the congregation and the Holy Spirit spoke softly, like He usually does.  He said,”These are my people.  I love them as much as I do you.  I love the people who are not here as well, just like I do you.”  I answered, “Yes, Lord, I know that.”  He said, “I want to give you My heart for these people.  Will you receive it?”

I sat very still for a moment, a little stunned as a tear splashed on my hand.  What He asked of me was a big request. I’ve walked with God long enough to know I could not accept a gift of this magnitude unless He helped me.  “I will.” I answered out loud.  “If you will help me receive it.”

I felt His smile in my heart.

He told me, “Some people are here today because they want to be, some are here to please another, some are here because it’s expected, some are here because they’re desperate, and some are here because they don’t know where else to find me. I need My church to become Christ to those around you.”

He reinforced in me that what I was doing by reaching out to women across the world concerning His heart about babies and their lives and the lives of their mothers was His heart, and He blessed me with this affirmation.

The Lord Jesus wants to bless each of us.  Will you let Him?

Donna