What You Believe Is How You Act


I watched a question and answer news segment involving a panel of young adults from what a large majority of people in our country would consider prestigious American universities.  I say “prestigious” with hesitation, because many of these universities have become hot-beds of liberal and antichristian ideals, taught by professors who feel it’s their responsibility to propagandize the students in their classrooms with their same liberal beliefs.

The panelists who identified themselves as Democrats, were in favor of paying high taxes to our government so the government could DO more for us.  What’s happened to the idea of US working hard and DOING for ourselves? Then, give a helping hand to those TRULY in need.  Not just our tax money going to a society raised with the mentality of, “You’re rich, you owe it to me. You should give to me out of your hard work, but I don’t need to do anything on my own to change my condition because it’s your fault I’m in this state to start with.”

The whole mind-bending segment had me shaking my head in disgust and disgrace at the attitudes and beliefs of the college students and at the downward spiral of our country.

I shared the economic side of the discussion to show you that what you believe is how you speak and act. The questions were not only about economics.  Abortion, and a woman’s “right” to choose was the next topic. Needless to say, the liberal student’s answers were not surprising. One woman refused to say the word “baby”, and would only use the word “fetus”. In their effort to believe that abortion does not kill a voiceless, defenseless baby, pro-abortion proponents use words that dehumanize a child created in God’s image.

People fear man when they should fear God, the Creator of all life.  That being said, all human life is sacred in any stage of development or in whatever environment that God-created life dwells.

Thinking of cells, embryos, or a fetus makes it easier to terminate, the unplanned pregnancy.  Look what happens when you say that same sentence with different words; Thinking of a tiny human, or baby makes it harder to kill the child living inside your womb.

To God, no baby is unplanned?  He created the baby, therefore, the child’s life is intentional and shouldn’t be murdered because of financial, relational or inconvenience issues.

After writing this, I want to say again, what we believe is how we act.  Abortion’s tragedy happens because of the lack of, or the breakdown of our spiritual lives in relationship to a holy God and the consequences of personal sin in relationships consummated outside of marriage or from the emotional pain of strained or dying marriages.

I’m speaking to women and men who by choice, abort their children. Not to women who live in countries, family situations or are kidnapped by a person or by human-traffickers where abortion is forced upon them.  Horrifically, that is an ever-increasing issue, and another subject judged by God upon the ones forcing the unwanted living situations and abortions on these women.

God knows our intentions.  He looks inside our hearts, not to our outside appearance as does man.

Colossians 1:18-20   The Voice bIBLE (VOICE)

18 He is the head of this body, the church. He is the beginning, the first of those to be reborn from the dead, so that in every aspect, at every view, in everything—He is first. 19 God was pleased that all His fullness should forever dwell in the Son 20 who, as predetermined by God, bled peace into the world by His death on the cross as God’s means of reconciling to Himself the whole creation—all things in heaven and all things on earth.

Think on these things in the quietness.  If you listen very carefully, you’ll hear God speak His truth to your heart.



All-Sufficient God

The memories of this past holiday season are sealed in my heart.  I was blessed to have my son’s and daughter’s families at home for Thanksgiving and Christmas this year which of course included both my grandsons!  My children are not often home at the same time, and I cherished the special days together.

Grandsons . . . I have two, and if it’s God’s plan, they’ll be more grandchildren.  God’s intentions for us are always good.  I remind myself of this when I can, because I remember a time I was certain I’d never be a mother, let alone a grandmother.

Everyday God’s goodness amazes me. Jeremiah 29:11 tells us God has good plans for us, plans to give us hope and a future, and even though these words were spoken by God in the old testament to the children of Israel, when you become a christian, you become heirs to God’s promises to Abraham as well.  God has good intentions for all our lives, but He has requirements as well.

Jeremiah also tells us God wants to prosper us.  Prosperity in the scriptures means sufficiency in all things, God’s grace abounding toward us.  In order for us to receive His bounty in every area of our lives, He wants us to first seek Him and His kingdom, and when we do, He promises to care and provide for us.

In my post, Adoption An Answer For The Pain, I shared my heart with you about my infertility, miscarriages and eventual adoptions.  After ten years of infertility and my first miscarriage, I gave up on everything, including God.  My pain swallowed me; and I was sick to death of listening to women complain about their kids and motherhood, or not wanting to be pregnant at all.  God, in His loving mercy allowed me to grieve and heal, and eventually I returned to His arms of forgiveness and hope, even though He’d never let me go to start with.

God had blessings planned for me.  His path was different than I’d thought of for my life, but oh, how good His ideas were for me.

If you still wait for a child, or you’re pregnant and don’t want to be, don’t give up on God. He’s not given up on you.  He wants you to have a child; perhaps through natural birth or adoption, or maybe foster care.  He is the God of life.  If you’re considering abortion, wait and seek Him first.  Allow God’s Holy Spirit to speak to you and share His good intentions for both you and your baby.

He is the “all-sufficient one” who never slumbers or sleeps.  God cares about every detail of your life and He will sustain you.

Over time, I healed  after my miscarriage.  I prayed.  I cried out to God.  I wanted peace.  I wanted what He wanted for me because I’d come to the realization He wanted only good for me.  I stepped back and let go of my baby quest, and in His great compassion, love and timing, God brought my baby daughter into my life.  He’d wanted this for me all along.  God never let go of me and He used one woman’s choice for life to be the answer to my prayers.

He’ll do the same for you, no matter what side of the motherhood equation you’re on.

Seek Him first.  You and your child will never regret it.



Hope-God Revealing His Heart To Us

If you read my post, Adoption-An Answer for the Pain, I wrote about my feelings of failure.  Failure as a woman, failure as a wife, failure as a christian because of questioning and blaming God for my inability to conceive or carry a child to term.  By the time I miscarried my first child, I’d completely given up on myself and God.

Mercifully, He didn’t give up on me.  Through His son, Jesus Christ, He continued to love me, to protect my heart and to forgive me. Hebrews 13:5 says, “I will never leave you or forsake you.” That’s God’s promise to us.  He was still there, all the time, loving me in spite of my feelings about Him, my circumstances or myself.

Pain, mental or physical, shuts you down and gives you tunnel vision.  All your focus is on the pain and the reasons for it.  You ache for relief, and after a while, you’ll do anything to stop it.  When I became a christian, I asked Jesus to forgive me and be my Lord and Savior.  He did, and the Holy Spirit came to live inside me.  There aren’t enough words to express how grateful I am for that.  The Holy Spirit is our comforter, our teacher, our encourager, and so much more. It’s the Holy Spirit who accomplishes God’s purpose in our lives.

When you hear someone who has a true relationship with Jesus say,” God told me,” what they mean in almost all cases is they heard the Holy Spirit inside their spirit speak to them.  I know, He speaks to me and I speak to Him.

I was a christian. . . an immature one, when I lost my first child after so many years of trying to conceive.  But, after some time passed and I’d had a chance to grieve, the Holy Spirit applied His healing oil to my broken heart.  At first, the unbearable weight of loss lifted enough for me to realize I would live through this and that realization freed my paralyzed spirit.  Eventually, numbness dissolved, and feelings of abandonment by God disappeared.  I’d wake in the night thinking about God and His love for me, and with that, hope, which I’d been certain had vanished from the earth, raised its beautiful face.  I asked God for forgiveness, which He gave, but like the good Father that He is, He gave me so much more.  He infused my heart with His love.  Hope and faith in that love allowed me to rest, to finally let go and trust His good intentions towards me.  With complete certainty, I knew God loved me and that He’d placed the desire in my heart to become a mother.  He’d planned my life before He created me, just like He did for you.

I share this to tell you, God created you to have a  personal relationship with Him.  He will not stop pursuing you.  He wants you to cry out to Him for help and hope.  That is a prayer I guarantee He will answer.  I will pray for you.  See my contact page for info.

His love for us has no measure.

Proverbs 13:12 says, “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.”



A Fetus By Any Other Name is a Baby

I, along with the rest of the world, followed the United States’ debt limit debacle on television. Each side stated their position with fervor and used words and phrases that best portrayed their party’s reasoning according to what they wished to accomplish.

The democrats used “revenue” and the republicans said “tax increases”; both meant it would cost the  american people more money.  I shook my head over the squabbling and spoke to the television with my indignant reasons about why couldn’t they see we needed to cut spending and lower the debt.  How difficult is that to figure out?  Our country’s survival is at stake!

In a calmer moment, I thought about children, (which I do a lot), and the words we use to describe them.

A large majority of people who are pro-abortion or pro-choice use terms like “fetus, pregnancy and tissue mass” to discuss abortion or describe the unborn child inside a woman’s body.

They have to.

How can they write a pamphlet or say to woman who is considering abortion, ” now, in  the suction curettage procedure, the tubing connected to a suction machine tears your baby’s body apart and sucks it out of your body, or, if your baby is older and larger, dilation and evacuation is used after opening the cervix.  The abortionist crushes the baby’s skull to make the child’s body easier to remove.”  Simply replacing the word fetus with baby, paints a whole new picture, and you notice I did not call the abortionists, doctors.

I thought doctors took an oath to, “First Do No Harm”?

I think many more women would choose to keep their child or to place it for adoption and that would not accomplish the abortionists purposes. The people running the clinics would not make as much money, so they state their position as to why it’s o.k. to “terminate” instead of “kill” in terms that make you think of your baby as non-human.

Think about it from God’s point of view.  Your baby’s survival is at stake.

The Healing Bible says it like this: Psalms 139:13-16 “You put me together in my mother’s womb.  I praise You because You made me in such a wonderful way.  I know how amazing that was!  You could see my bones grow as my body took shape, hidden in my mother’s womb.  You could see my body grow each passing day.  You listed all my parts and not one of them was missing.”



What Would Your Sign Say about You?

What would we think about ourselves if we were forced by someone to wear signs advertising our thoughts, behaviors, intentions, achievements and failures and that person was the one deciding what our sign would say for that day.

I think most of us would spend the majority of our time in our homes. . .

Imagine, going to work in the morning and the sign you had to wear said, ” I hate my job, my boss is an idiot, and I’m going to do as little work today as I can get away with.”  We probably wouldn’t have a job for very long.  And yet, how many of us feel that way and never express it, except perhaps to those people we feel “safe” with.

If someone could read my mind, knew all the details of my life, and told me I had to openly advertise anything they chose about my life and thoughts and wear it as a sign, honestly, I don’t think I could go on living.  On my own, I’m not capable of living a life of perfection or maintaining only righteous, Godly thoughts.  Jesus told us there is no one righteous, not one single person.  He is the only one who lived a perfect life.

Think about it.  Each day we would see signs on people that say, ” I stole from the department store,” or, ” I’m a hit and run driver, ” or “I abused my child.”  So many frightening signs and far, far fewer that say, ” I gave to the poor and didn’t take credit for it,” or, “I scooped snow from my elderly neighbor’s driveway.”

“If you’re considering abortion, your sign might say, “I’m thinking about killing my baby.”

The things we think about in the privacy of our minds can come to pass if we dwell on them long enough.  Those things, good and bad, are not secrets to God.  He knows the thoughts and intentions of our hearts.

I’m so grateful no person is deciding what my sign should say.  I do think we write our own signs, even if we don’t wear them on the outside, we wear them on our hearts and live with the consequences of what they say, everyday.

If you’re thinking about abortion, write this sign for you heart instead.  “I’m chosing life for my baby and trusting God to make a way for me and my child.”

God’s sign for you will say, “This my daughter, I love her and I will help her.”

Think about it. . .